Digging for Worms
POSTED JUNE 1, 2016 - Dina Silver
I have been re-reading Jim Collins’ wonderful book Good to Great about what enables some companies to consistently outperform their competitors and develop into great organizations. He’s got a number of compelling insights into leadership and strategy—I heartily recommend the book, but I was particularly taken with the chapter on confronting hard, unpleasant truths.
It is neither easy nor pleasant to acknowledge when your organization is facing a thorny and scary problem. READ MORE >
Biography is NOT Destiny
POSTED MAY 4, 2016 - Dina Silver
You are not your past. The past occurred, it has happened. Some of it -- both the good stuff and the bad -- was out of your control and due to circumstances of birth and genetics. Some of it you may have caused or influenced. Your past may have been luxurious and loving and you assume the world will sumptuously roll out in front of you like the red carpet at the Oscars. Your past may have been challenging, full of privation and emotional trauma and you believe your future story will look a lot like past chapters, regardless of your efforts.
Neither is true, and if we simply look around, we know this is so. We see people who have ‘everything’ squander their lives, plow through fortunes, and take bitterness and entitlement to excruciating new levels. And we see people overcome the most wretched beginnings create lives of meaning, contribution, love and abundance. READ MORE >
Stop Making Sense: Leverage Your Intuition
POSTED APRIL 6, 2016 - by Dina Silver
While our analytic brains are trained and developed, challenged and grown daily, our gut reactions are often considered suspect. We receive information all the time that is neither analytic nor objectively provable, and even in the face of our strong hunches, many of us regard this information as irrelevant, distracting, even useless. We operate on a kind of “prove it or lose it” basis in which we often overvalue data and undervalue intuition because our hunches can’t be substantiated, proven or convincingly argued.
Intuition is a natural gift and we all have it though for so many of us the muscle is somewhat atrophied. When we are operating synchronously with our mind and our gut, we navigate through our lives from our truest centers and make better decisions for ourselves and for our organizations. READ MORE >
The High Impact of High Touch
POSTED MARCH 2, 2016 - by Dina Silver
I saw a gorgeous rocking chair in a lovely little shop in Oregon a few weeks ago. Super comfortable, spectacular and detailed woodwork and naturally, pricey enough. The artist who makes these chairs works to order. I couldn’t resist. I placed an order and put my deposit down.
I expected to get notification in a couple of months that my chair was ready and would be crated and shipped and that would be that. Instead, the artist, Kelly Hawk, emailed me, introduced himself and began sending me photos of my chair in progress– the wood for the headrest, the slats, the choices of wood that he recommended and beautiful details of how the chair will look. READ MORE >
Pay It Forward
POSTED FEBRUARY 3, 2016 - by Dina Silver
You never know when you may change a person’s life for the good. Most of us actively hope that we have a positive influence on the people we know-- we try to behave with integrity and kindness. But if you really want to ramp up the odds that you have enormous impact, your actions must be intentional and selfless.
Sometimes people take intentional actions that are heroic. You may have heard, for example, of these amazing kidney transplant stories where one person gives a healthy kidney to a needy stranger and then a friend or family member of that recipient donates to another needy and unrelated patient. These virtuous circles have exceptional impact—the lives of multiple individual’s lives are saved and their ‘debt’ is re-payed by family or friends who pay it forward by giving a kidney to another needy person.
This is a big gift! And not all of us will choose to take an action of such enormity. But there are still loads of other ways for each of us to create joy, change lives, grow the careers of others, or lend a hand to someone who needs some help. Mainly we need to adopt a mindset of service to others and let go of worrying about how we will benefit from our efforts. READ MORE >
POSTED JANUARY 6, 2016 - by Dina Silver
The good news was I got to have a fantastic evening out with my 18 year old son who was home for a couple of weeks appreciating a stocked fridge and on-site laundry that did not require coins. The bad news was the evening ended with an appendectomy—mine. You just never know what’s around the corner.
As it turned out, I was lucky—my appendix had not yet ruptured so the surgery was straightforward and frankly, pretty easy. I imagined the recovery would be tough—imagining my anguish moving from sitting to standing or lying down. I would have liked to milk the sympathy for a solid week and let worried family and friends hover and tote and do for me, but the truth was, I really wasn’t in much pain at all. I had to recalibrate: my preconceptions of a tough recovery from abdominal surgery didn’t match the truth of my experience—I was home the next day and out to dinner the next night. And asleep by 8:30pm. READ MORE >
Let Me Entertain You
POSTED DECEMBER 2, 2015 - by Dina Silver
What makes a presentation a compelling, edge of your seat, tell everyone you know what you just experienced event? Here’s a clue– it is definitely NOT data filled power point slides– those are particularly handy if you’re looking to induce sleep or give folks time to catch up on their emails.
So many of my executive coaching clients find themselves regularly in front of rooms large and small, so the question of what captivates an audience is often on my mind. My little memory cue for presenters is: Grab Them, Involve Them, Compel Them, Release Them. READ MORE >
The Future Is Now
POSTED NOVEMBER 4, 2015 - by Dina Silver
I sat with a group of colleagues last week and we spent a couple of hours exploring our thinking about global trends over the next five years as well as how the world of executive coaching will be different five years from now. Both conversations were rich, and like all generative dialogues, the thinking was compelling, deep, far ranging and the ideas and their potential impacts are still chasing each other in my brain.
These are crucial conversation for all business leaders to explore with their teams. I encourage you to make this a priority in the next month—you will be amazed at the impact of the dialogue. Unless we speculate about where the world is heading and how shifting trends will impact our businesses, we will be blindsided and out-performed by competitors who saw the future coming and took action. READ MORE >
Supply The Light-- Not The Heat!
POSTED OCTOBER 7, 2015 - by Dina Silver
9 Simple Steps to Successfully Navigate Emotionally Charged Conversations
A new client has had a complicated and often difficult relationship with her boss. On bad days when one speaks, the hair on the other's neck stands on end. At the same time, both are talented, creative, responsible and devoted to their jobs. If either left the company, it would be a great loss-- and neither wants to leave. In fact, both want to create sanity and calm in their relationship together -- but they're stuck in a rut and need some help.
I was brought in to work with each of them individually and to bring them together in facilitated conversation as needed. The goal is to give them tools to shift the way they communicate with each other so that the good work they do can happen more easily and with lots less stress. READ MORE >